1. Do anarchists think and are okay with anarchism meaning a reduction in the quantity/quality of goods?
See: Spain. Anarchism necessitates a social and economic equality for all.
2. How is incentive created in a moneyless society?
Depends on what you mean by incentive. I have incentive to pay my light bill because if I don't my lights will be turned off. I have incentive to pay my rent because if I don't the police will come knocking on my door and if I am stupid enough to answer, will grab me and take me away.
If you think not having a choice to do something is the same thing as incentive, fair enough, but I think such incentives are fascist bullshit. My incentives are internal, they are things that I like doing, if it means simply eating a big meal, watching lots of TV, taking a big shit and wiping my ass, I still have incentive to do those things.
3. What about people who work more productively than others?
What about them? If some people sit on their ass all day doing nothing and others spend all day being productive, there's absolutely nothing within anarchism to preclude either behavior.
4. I know america is practically a dictatorship. Everywhere I search about that a lot of videos and arcticles and Noam Chomsly talks appear. But what about the rest of the world? Not all governments are XIX-century-like.
All western countries are dictatorial to the rest of their subordinate developing countries. This is universial truth. If you live in a subordinate developing country, you may not believe that you are under a dictatorship, but for those countries to be subordinates to the west, the people are necessarily made to behave a certain way. The more subordinate you are, the more the overarching nation state is going to have to come down on its citizens. China is a prime example. Because it is utterly subordinate to the USA, its peoples are required to live lives not much better than factory farmed animals. You may invoke examples like Venezuela, which is supposedly run by a nice progressive, but even then you see that Venezuela is a heavy exporter of oil to the USA, and that the social policies in that country are nothing less than outright dictatorship.
So maybe you live in a magical country that is not subordinate to the west, and maybe you live in a magical country that has aboslutely no developing world subordinates. But I find it unlikely.
Just because you yourself do not feel pressured by your government does not mean that your government is not pressuring others in some way. Portugal in particular was one of the worlds greatest colonialists (second only to Britian), whose colonies lasted until 1999, and Portugese law still exists in several countries to this day. The fact that Portugal is part of the EU doesn't help the case that it's "not a dictatorship," or that it's even an "acceptable level of dictatorship."
5. What about tasks that nobody wants - i.e. security guard, shopkeeper, shoe factory worker, etc (basically anything people are forced to do and don't really find as a personal aspiration)?
Do you want to take out the garbage? No? So you'd rather pay someone to do it, is that it? Someone who, because of the system we have in place, is "incentivized" to take out your garbage for you? I'm an individualist, I take out my own fucking garbage, and I do tasks that I may not like myself.
However, since you appear to not like doing certain tasks and possibly expect others to do those tasks for you, maybe we can redesign society so that those tasks are either automated or minimized in some other manner. The reasons shitty jobs exist today is because of that dynamic that requires that the lowest classes do those jobs, if the lowest class didn't, you could expect the elites to figure out solutions so that they wouldn't have to do them themselves (of course, then the lower class would no longer be needed and would be summarily executed, etc).
BTW, I am an social anarchist, I am not a "tuckarian" or "carson" "individualist." I am closer to being an anarcho-communist than an "individualist," even if the last two paragraphs do not appear to imply that.