|Y| wrote:This is one reason I don't care about the whole gay marriage thing. Homosexuals, in America at least, are their own upper class.
Is this a careless wording or are you truly that blind? The misconception that all queers are wealthy is tantamount to the idea that all black people are like Oprah. Yes, our reality is distorted by the media, largely because of polls taken by marketing firms. Basically, polls are taken in high end gay magazines and then projected on the rest of us, yet polls outside high end gay magazines show that gay men make about 27% less than straight men, while lesbians are a little lower than straight women, who already make less anyway. When you add other factors [like the fact that queers are also people of color, people with disabilities etc] plenty of us are marginalized aplenty. The white gay male upper class [where i come from every queer person with money and power is a white man] is no more a representation of our community as the Fresh Prince of Bel Air is of black communities. The idea that 'homosexuals are their own upper class' is one spouted by the religious right.
There is only 1 practical use of marriage to me: seeing partners in the hospital. In the era of AIDS it is often forgotten by the rest that we aren't allowed to see our lovers in the hospital, ride with them in ambulances etc, because we can't get married to them. I know queers who only want the right to marry for this reason, though obviously the real solution would be to change hospital protocol.
Marriage of course, is otherwise not worth a shit, not only because it enshrines love as a piece of property, but because we shouldn't have to be partnered to receive medical benefits or a pension...