Anarchy is love, or should be, yet some anarchists can be so hateful at times. I can understand anger and pointing out how fucked up people and the world are. I really can. And I agree. But sometimes a little politeness to your fellow anarchist can go a long way.
Like, those of us who don't like government and are anarchists but are willing to vote to use it to keep people we really hate out of office. Sure it can be argued that no matter what we vote, nothing will change, but shouldn't we be using all possible ways to change the world for the better? If we see a candidate who supports increased civil rights in one area and one candidate who doesn't, are we really such terrible people for voting for the first candidate? At the very least, we're trying to help and that in itself is deserving of some kindness.
Beyond that, a lot of anarchists are hostile towards, like, liberals. As a liberal myself I can't understand it. Sure, a lot of liberals are working within the system and we're against the system. Does that really make them such vile bastards? Many liberals like myself want to make sure that even if the system still exists, at the very least it is as fair as possible. More civil liberties, less forced religion, work against racism and sexism, etc. I can definitely understand not even wanting to work within the system but those who are trying to do the right thing at least deserve some respect.
I think anarchy can only ever work if there is mutual, given respect (not earned, respect should be something you are given by default as a living being) and a willingness to open your arms to those who are still in the system and who are frustrated with it and want to leave it but are seeing only hostility from anarchists. If you show them hostility it is going to drive them away and they are going to stay in the "safe" system.

