Kirsten Flames me in Infoshop!
We need to remember that there are different sexist attitudes in different places in the west. While I do not look for even soft-core porn, where I live it is neither available in any public libraries nor available in most supermarkets. or video stores. as expected toplessness is completely absent.
We might ask where we see bodily admiration vs bodily objectification. As a target, I treasured the few whistles I got from women and resented the more whistles I got from men. As a subject, I half-wish I did not consider people's appearance. but I really wish I could consider people's appearence without bodily admiration taking a share of bodily objectification.
What puzzles me the most are the health issues. I can explain my attraction to skinny women as an attraction to healthy women (and often criticise the healthy-body-image movement, first, for picking on people like me, and second, for pretending overweight people are underweight), but I cannot explain my attraction to large-breasted women the same way. At first I tried to deny it. I said that I should be attracted to health, that implants are unhealthy, and that therefore implants should be unattractive. It doesn't often work.
I CERTAINLY KNOW the illogical rationale that men choose thin women cuz they are "healthier" is total bullshit on many levels. If you are gonna use the whole "we chose thin women cuz they make better breeders" argument, well, reality shows that women with some meat on their bones do better in pregnancy and birth than thin women. You cannot judge someone's health by whether they are thin or not! THAT IS ABSURD! I know a ton of women who do SICK things to keep thin, like eat laxatives so they never get the food they eat, like binging and purging, like taking drugs like coc and speed to lose weight, like starving themselves for male fantasy bodies. I know women who are so obsessed with weight that they are literally killing themselves to meet the unnatural beauty standards in America, and these are your "healthy" choices? You CANNOT tell what is going on with weight by looks. And it is insanely stupid to think that is an intelligent argument here. Models I have known live in weight slavery, they live in body fear, I know very few healthy thin women, sorry. Almost every one of them I know lives in real FEAR of gaining weight as if that was the end of their being! Visit Ann Simonton's site at mediawatch.com, she was on the cover of Sports Illustrated Swin Suit Edition, see what she says about weight and models. You CANNOT make sweeping untrue rationalizations for your wanting trophy women by claiming it is health based, especially when following it with a comment of how much you like your fake plastic tits!!!!
Come on people...some of these comments are really sad and lame. A woman trying to argue she gets power from her tits and wants to keep it that way, arguing tits are ALWAYS sex?! What the hell? So my sisters and I going topless was sexual? No, it was not. Get a grip. American Christian sexual repression is what these comments are about, not about true sexuality or the reality of things without the sexual repression present. I have decided, on the whole, to quit trying to educate idiots who say things like they choose thin women cuz they are more naturally healthy *and* that they love fake tits. I have decided those people can live amongst themselves. Strong, independent, HEALTHY women should just boycott these assholes in everyway is my feeling about it at this point. Let shallow looksists date each other. Maybe it is safer that way...
And yes, let us exalt plastic UNSAFE and DANGEROUS tit implants cuz, geez, men like them, and geez, women get power from them, who cares about the woman's health? All that matters is her sex appeal, right guy? As long as YOU GET OFF ON LOOKING AND SQUEEZING THOSE FAKE TITS, WHO GIVES A FUCK IF SHE DIES? Right? This shit angers me and this is a woman's HEALTH issue as much as anything else.
My whole point was that attraction is what it is, and it not always what it should be. As I said, I can justify my attraction to thinness as an attraction to health, but I cannot justify my attraction to large breasts as an attraction to health. It just is. Sometimes we can change our desires and sometimes we can't.
My next point seems a bit more complicated ... let's start with high heels. We both know high heels are unhealthy and we can both recognize high heels with ease, so there is no doubt, no second-guessing involved. I decided that since high heels are unhealthy, then high heels should be a turnoff. And since that day, they have been. We both know that anorexia and implants are unhealthy but we cannot recognize either with the same ease. I personally am very skinny and I personally have taken constant criticism from the so-called 'healthy body weight' movement over my skinniness. Some assumed I had anorexia because I have many severe allergies and must be very careful what I eat. None realized I eat four or five meals a day. One of my friends had large breasts and wanted a reduction. So in both cases the skinny = anorexic and the large = implant assumptions some made were just wrong.
I can have a very clear conscience about my preference for skinniness, simply because it is not a preference for anorexics [ia], there are healthy skinny people and indeed more people here are overweight than not overweight. I can have a somewhat clear conscience about my preference for large breasts because it is not a preference for implants, there are naturally large-breasted people.
[Why am I forbidden an attraction to skinny women? When homophobes condemn homosexuals' orientation, we rightly call it bigotry, but when Kirsten condemns my orientation, we cannot call it bigotry.]
Lisan sik jah suns,